TRYING SO HARD TO BE RELEVANT WHERE YOU'RE IRRELEVANT

TRYING SO HARD TO BE RELEVANT WHERE YOU'RE IRRELEVANT:the irony of living for other people's expectations
Remove your expectations from people and you will have removed their power to hurt you:If you don't like something, just remove your attention from it, because wherever your attention is...your power is surrendered.
Every one has a life to live, persons with empty lives tend to push their negativity into other people's lives creating an impression of certain standards that must be met for another person's life to qualify...eeeeh if one thinks some standards must be met then let them practice for their own good.
Living by other people's standards is giving up your own life for nothing because most cases the people you intend to impress don't even have your interests on their secondary optional list of priorities.
They don't even notice your struggle to meet up to their expectations because they are busy living their own life.
When you live yourself, you will surely attract the right people who will see you as enough and appreciate you for who you are.
You're under no obligation to do what others expect you to do,Do something because you think it is right and you care.
You don't need others to hold your hand at every step in your life, sometimes you need to move alone, to trust yourself and have your personal appraisal based on your personal standards.
You are likely to mess up sometimes but when you listen to your intuition, your messes will only give you a life time lesson to better yourself.
You need to grow to a level where you allow your self to speak your own truth to yourself, even when all circumstances threaten your Independence.
Start to make your own decisions in situations instead of excuses-learn new things: never settle for mediocrity for fear of challenging yourself above the basic and generic expectations.
It takes a lot of courage to stand alone, but it is worth it, you don't have to be apologetic to be you.
Trying so hard to live up to other people's expectations is a sign of insecurity and shadows your attention from the people who appreciate the true you. #Nankwangainspirations

169Bethann Carbone, Jean Ngobi and 167 others

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SET YOUR LIFE-BAR & BE CLEAR ON YOUR LIMITS

SET YOUR LIFE-BAR & BE CLEAR ON YOUR LIMITS
“....If you don’t set a baseline standard for what you will accept in life, you easily slip into behaviors & attitudes & quality of life far below what you deserve...”-Anthony Robbins
One’s life-bar correlate with one's self esteem, if your life bar is so low, with almost no limits, it is just clear you think you don’t deserve the best for your self, your life choices are often affected and clearly translates into low self esteem.
My mother, Kekrine (RIP), Medium sized, not that tall but not short, fleshy with a chocolate skin, used to walk with a force-forward as though she was always edging to wrestle someone, with a deep authoritative voice that could piece through distances- believed in a life so big that only lived in her intuition. She believed and i know she still believes in being unique, setting the life-bar high above the routine and never settling for less. She did not believe in second positions, one has to be the best of who she/he is, there should be no any alternative or plan B in any situation A should always be A, it doesn't matter the situation.
Maama, didn't care how many people believe in her or how many people will cheer her up or how many people say no, all she believed in – is living above the basic and setting own standards.
Maama didnt believe in team work if you’re not teaming up with the champions and to her, champions were not determined by the physical achievements but on an individual Attitude, Maama believed that the right attitude can make you fly even without wings
To Maama, no one is a failure and everyone is responsible for own choices in life, therefore everyone ought to have a life-bar and should be bold enough to spell it out lest someone takes you for granted.
It didn’t matter whether you're privileged or under privileged according to societal dimensions, one must have the Dos and Don't s in every situation.
And that defines you and determine how others relate with you and the world will accept you for who you are.
Raise your standards and the Universe will meet you there” – Danielle LaPorte
Choosing to be a no boundary person, an I don’t care person- a whatever person-:To Maama, is hypocritical, toxic and self-failing.
Every one in life ought to have a limit-a point where you are able to say no, i cannot go below this- in every situation.
With a well set life-bar, the more clear your line of compromise stands out. It doesn't matter at what level of social class you are, you must have a ceiling on what you can take and what you cannot take.
It is important to be real in life, choosing no limit to compromise is living in self denial because generally everyone has a lower limit in life-the difference is the ability to clearly stand out and be clear on what you can and cannot tolerate.
Wake up and become that person, put on the persona. Make the choice that you will be mindful, every moment of the day, that you are a person of high confidence that has high expectations.
Setting a life-bar, is not about what you can afford to buy with money it is about what you can earn with your personality. You don’t need to lower your life-bar to fit in, no no, be clear, whoever doesn't match up to your expectations is not your type and you don't need to apologize for letting go...
Setting your life-bar will give you guidelines of your day to day life, create a personality you will be proud of when you're alone-
Repetition is the mother of mastery. If you want to be a confident person, who has high standards, then act like you are a confident person, who has high standards.
We are the sum of our habits. What you choose to believe about yourself and how you choose to act, is entirely up to you. Pick out your skin, try it on for size and before you know it you will have mastered the art of being the best you possible.
SET YOUR LIFE-BAR & BE CLEAR
#Nankwangainspirations

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